Suspicion is always dangerous. Sure. That's a common thing that I see at the root of a lot of threads here (like that one about strip clubs).
We've gone through enough now that I don't worry so much about cheating anymore. Believe me, that's truly a liberation no matter how you arrive at it - be it by full trust in your partner or full trust in the relationship being strong enough to endure that.

No, I don't feel she's withholding secrets from me. She withholds her bad feelings but eventually they come out. I should be thankful for that. My concern is that the longer she holds them in, the worse she feels and for her sake (ok, mine too because you can't be happy if your partner isn't) I'd like her to shed those things as soon as possible. To try and make that happen, I posted this message.

I welcome sensibility, Cyborg. Throwing bible passages at people's problems isn't going to help anything, IMO. Shared knowledge and experience is the best thing and if being an old fart (I'm 35) allows me to pass any wisdom on to anyone else, then I'll try and do that.