Buddy, if you always go to the library to stare at some chick then odds are you're coming off as a stalker. If you want to be with the chick: MAKE A MOVE! What the hell do you think you're getting out of staring for 3 seconds, then getting scared, looking away, and typing about it on a forum? You need to make a move. Although you're stare-fest has ****ed up your chances. Don't analyze so much and just act.