Originally Posted by shh!
Marriage counseling? What for? I thought you said he was your boyfriend...
You say he can never understand your point about anything, but that is not true (unless he is mentally challenged). He understands, he just isn't going to comply with your wishes. He doesn't care what you think as much as he cares about whatever it is he wants to be doing. You know I am right about this.
I'd skip the counseling - it isn't going to make him the person you want him to be. And stop living with him. It would make you less inclined to tolerate his crappy behavior if you were more independent and self-sufficient.
Thank you so much for your reply back. I appreciate to the fullest.
I guess he may just be mentally challeged! lol. Im not saying that to defy what you say. Last night we talked and he admitted that he cant understand how i feel. But relationships are not only about trust, they are about compromising and helping eachother out with things that may or may not bother the other person. He doesnt give in an effort to do so like I do. For instance, I dont have a problem with him going to a nude beach, but I dont think id ever do it. He refused to go to a normal beach with me. SO i compromised and told him i would go once for him. But he wouldnt go to a normal beach with me. Those kinds of things.
It's not that i want to change him, but if he can't compromise and come to a happy medium with anything, (hes the same way with his family, his way or the highway), he;s never going to be happy and it's just difficult to deal with.