I have listed the possible things that I have done and the circumstances that may have caused or added to the current situation. Do you think any of this has caused irreversable damage? If you could list the numbers in order of impact, that would be great. I'm not calling her anymore FYI, but just curious.

1. Told her I loved her too early
2. Told her I loved her more than I should have
3. Was usually available for her.
4. I have a great job and my ducks in order. She's starting fresh in a new country. She needs to focus on getting her ducks in order, and wants to do it on her own - therefore not making it too serious. I believe her when she says she has no time for a relationship.
5. I said "You are the one I love the most right now. I have never felt this way about anyone."
6. She's leaving for home in a few weeks and it will probably be 2-3 months - maybe more before she returns. She's trying to ease her way out of it - again not making it too serious.
7. I oferred her money for schooling when and if she returns, but told her I would do this for any friend of mine that was strapped and who I believed in.
8. I also offered her money in lieu of work so that she could "enjoy her last bit of time in this city" (I know - this will get flames).
9. In the card about 2 weeks ago, I said " I am sorry for being selfish - that is the last thing you need right now." I regret writing "right now". Nobody EVER wants anyone selfish & needy.