i feel that because she is confused about the other person in her life, maybe you should wait on telling her how you feel. by adding more emotion to her life, might cause more conflict right now and that isn't what she needs. let her know that you'll be there for her whenever she needs you. i think by showing support, she might realize how good of a friend you are and confide in you better.

about when to confess your feelings? the first chance you get. jump upon the bus and make your move because i would rather get it over with, rather than wait.

i think that maybe you should take her out to dinner as friends. spend a little cash on her to make her feel special then go somewhere quiet and just have one of those long converstations with her. preferablly not someones house because those silent moments are hard to deal with. maybe a park or beach where the two of you can see the sky. i think that usually works pretty good. raverboy

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