I haven't had any relationship experience but I have observed a lot so take this how you will. First of all the most important thing to remember is that in the main scheme of things, you need to be happy. If this relationship is making you anything but happy, it needs to be changed or be left behind. Since you seem to be very attached to him and have obviously made a long time committment toward him I wouldn't suggest tossing it to the wind quite yet.

The thing I know about us guys is that most of us don't take hints. If your subtle suggestions and hints aren't getting to him, then I would have to suggest simply talking to him straight about it. A lot of guys need things spelled out for them so you may just have to present the problems your having directly.

I would say make sure he knows exactly how you feel, remind him often that you need to feel special, and whatever you do, make sure this relationship makes you happy. Life is too short to squander on things that make us miserable. Everyone deserves to find their piece of heaven on Earth. Of course, this is merely my opinion. Take it how you will.

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