Originally Posted by updraft
Thanks Ellynn. I should approach him with the tantric idea. I just find the men I've been with so different. The ex was like the energizer bunny and the bf is the opposite.
The crazy thing is my bf is an athlete!!! Makes no friggen sense to me!! I love the sex my bf and I have but its missing variety. I do think its a psychological thing....he once said "I can only come doggy..." and then we ended up doing spoons position and he came !! Same with me on top... Men..
Hyperactive men tend to have longer lasting erections, but last much shorter before they ejaculate. Then again, easy going fellows and the more relaxed type have a much shorter time of staying hard, if even really being hard at all during sex. I must say though, I'm not shur how they do it, but they last alot longer.
It also depends how excited you get him during sex. I must admit, sometimes, i'm just not really in the mood for sex, or i'm just plain lazy at the moment. I forget to get him all excited and hyped up, and it usually ends up making sex bad and frustrating for the both of us. Try acting all excited next time you and him are having sex, try to have some of that excitement rub off on him. He'll be so hard, you can hang a flag off his wang for hours.
Men can't really control how hard they get, or stay for that matter. It's really up to us. And I know that everytime I just don't put in the effort, I won't see the results.