Definitely try not to get disheartened man.
If you see my thread further down the page, "problems looking for love", thats me on a bad day. But you have to continue - what else can you do?
I have had one girlfriend in my life, but if the smallest thing had changed the day i met her and i hadnt ended up with her as my girlfirend, then i would be exactly the same...never had anyone. (do you see what im saying??)

The only pro-active steps i have found you can really take is to get out and experience life more. Forget about gettin a girlfriend for a while, well maybe put it to the back of your mind. Set out to meet people and look at anyone as a potential friend, female or male. I have found that meeting new people and making new friends is such a nice thing to do in life.

From this you will get experienced being around and talking to women and you'l certainly increase your chances of meeting someone to love.