so basically , are you saying that in your sex life , men always pick their positions and you got no say in this ?

When i was with my gf , screw it , even before , i knew that in order for her to be happy i had to please her first and then make myself cum (some men dont get that ...it sounds obvious to me) , instead of him always being in charge , why dont you just go ahead and try the positions you want , tell him that you wanna get your brains ****ed the shit out like THIS, and THAT way , and then you do his doggy style to finish it off , having sex is not about being selfsih and pleasing yourself and thats that , maybe you should let him know that, without going to the whole amazon.com book search . if your gonna try positions , you could also try to watch some porn and whatever seems nice for BOTH , or pick at least one for each and try it .

just a thought . also , dirty talking and telling him what to do can be a turn on and then he might find out that he enjoyed it (maybe as much as doggy )