The business implications are not hopeful should you split up over this. Obviously, you would probably not be able to maintain her father as a business contact, but that isn't the main problem.

I don't think you will be able to get over this without a scar, as you mentioned. I am wondering if there are any other surprises in store for you, and frankly I am indescribably disgusted that she would put her children in a position to be hurt should you decide to split over her deception. She does not sound like good-mother material, as she is very clearly more interested in catching herself a man than she is in protecting them from emotional scarring. The question you need to ask yourself is: is this the kind of mother you would really want for YOUR child?

If you decide to stay with her, she can have the surgery reversed (although that is not always successful) or, if you are not entirely disinterested in it, look into adoption. Of course, if she has already tied her tubes, my guess is that she is not interested in having any more.

Some women are truly horrendous. I am sorry for your dilemma.