There's really no answer to that pressure problem that I can think of. For me it just sort of happened. I was having the problem for about a month I'd say, and then one time I just didn't think about it at all and everything was fine. You've really just got to come up with a mindset that will allow you to just go with the flow. There's no simple answer. Or if there is one, I'd love to hear it. Why don't you try doing something spontaneous, like fingering her in the car while your driving, or just starting something at the weirdest possible time and in a strange place. Things like that used to really get me going even more than usual because it adds some extra excitement to it.

Maybe you should just talk about it with her. If she wants it too and knows you can't get it up, chances are she's blaming it on herself, even if she hasn't told you that. But hopefully this is something you'll be able to work out, cause I remember how frustrating it was and it bugged the hell out of both of us. I actually felt worse for her than I did for me cause she really thought it was her fault, somehow.

Do you literally never get it up when you're with her, or do you just go soft when something is really close to happening?