Originally Posted by jb5k1
Ok I've read that some of you have had anal sex and all that. My girlfriend and I watch porn and she always says it's so disgusting, yet if she see's someone get dp'd she goes 'Wow that'd probably feel AMAZING.' I find this funny and I think I could get her to try it.
What is the prep work involved. I'm not tryin to invade a fudge factory. I know fingers and stuff are the way to work up to it and alotta lube.
Also, how long does it take to stop hurting.. meaning a couple times or a couple minutes. I told her that it probably would hurt for the first few times.. if we did.
One last thing, lol. Is all anal play actually pleasurable or does it depend on the girl? I'm sure some people have seen some Jenna Haze porn and she seems to love it. She even said it's more of an intense orgasm.
Sooooo yea. Does it feel good and what are some pre-anal steps?
I personally have tried it and it sucked. Then again, the person I did it with was a moron and had no idea what he was doing. That's besides the point though.
Sounds to me like your girlfriend doesn't know what she wants. I say just ask her if she'd be willing to try. Like I tell people all the time, if you aren't comfortable talking about it then you shouldn't be doing it. So talk to her.
The pain factor varies from woman to woman. What feels good to one woman might not to another so you just have to try and see. If she tries it and hates it, respect her decision. Don't try to pressure her into doing it again if it's no fun for her. It will create animosity between you two because she will think you are being selfish. It's true too. If she is getting no pleasure from it, then why would she want to do it? She wouldn't. Make it a pleasurable experience for her. Try getting her in doggy position with some pillows under her to get her comfy. Use a lot of lube and prep her with fingers for sure. That helps a lot. Once you are inside, go slow. Also, move your hand around in front of her and play with her a little. Rub her breasts and belly, then her clit and such. Please her while you move inside of her. If you keep her pleasured, she might just forget about the bit of pain.
It will probably hurt the first few times and tell her this. Tell her it takes time but let her know it is completely up to her what you do and how many times you try before you give up on it all together. Let her be an active participant in the decision making.
As for your comment on the porn star, never watch porn and think it is some how real in any way. It's not. It scripted. She is paid to make it look good. She is numb to it. Trust me. She doesn't enjoy it. It's acting. So never make the mistake of thinking women in porn films are in any way being real.
Hope I could help.