Originally Posted by shh!
I agree with thisa post. And I just want to say that if you watch/participate, you will never be able to get that visual out of your head, so I would advise against it.
I see you're point of view as well....and this would be all well and good had nothing happened yet. But it has, and the visual he has in his mind might be far more hurtful than him actually participating and seeing for himself.
And as far as being honest with her goes...that might work too. But it would take the same level of trust, if she tells him she will not pursue this any longer, as it would if he allowed her to continue. The fact that he has these bad feelings tells me that he doesn't trust her, even though he really wants want to.
In that case walking away is the only choice here. But can he do this?