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Cybog · #8 (**permalink**) 04-09-05, 05:15 PM

Just out of curiosity...just how puss do you have to be to actually take a girl out on date at the age of 25 to go DANCING nonetheless, (Read - Vertical Clothed ****ing btw for the slow crowd) and get so choked up because she....uh...hugged you after a few hours on the date.

The only thing that better be getting choked after me dealing with this crap is my chicken, if you catch my drift.

Since you are quite the stud - Let me interpret your date for you: She wouldn't be rubbing her body against you if she didn't feel something for you.

Unless of course, (And this is clearly possible) you whined and talked her into it and she finally went on a sympathy date because you have been annoying the shit outta her for the past few months. And after re-reading your past threads this could obviously be an option.

You want some advice that might actually work? Maybe you need to start listening to someone who isn't such a damn sap as 85% of the people on here who have been patting you on the back as you continuously get shot down like you have for the past 25 years.

Someone like me.

So, in that case, let me give you some real simple basics:

Teh Rules:

#1. Shut the **** up.

All of this "Oh, I have feelings for her", or "Well, we had a talk about us..." or "Well we talked about having a relationship" bullshit needs to stop. Shut the **** up. Stop talking about your future or relationships or your "feelings" for this broad. She doesn't want to hear it. All you are saying to her is whiney obsessive annoying chump. STFU. Talk about everything BUT relationships or love or being together or any of that shit.

#2. Stop wasting your time.

Stop calling her, writing her, thinking about her 23.2 hours of the day. She needs to realize that you aren't the chump lapdog that you are making her think you are right now. I told you not to overdo it with the flowers on your first date, and you ignored that. You said "She didn't freak out like I thought she would"...

Do you really think this chick is going to flat out tell you how much you suck?

No. She isn't going to. You need to back the hell off for awhile and let her know you have your own life. Chicks don't want some sap drooling over them all the time. They want the cool guy. The fun guy. The guy who they can't have. Suckers like you are a dime a dozen. Women want a guy that has a life and doesn't obsess and pine over them like you are.

If you want to win over the little ladies heart, stop making her think you are the only thing she thinks of. Otherwise, like I said before, move out of the way while she goes and bangs some other dude and you are "Teh Shoulder".

#3. Re-Read #'s 1 & 2.

Like Airborne and Ellynn said, it's her move now. Don't call her or talk to her for a few days and see what happens. Period. That means AT ALL. If she wants anything out of you she will come and let you know. Put her on the offensive and let her know you have your own life and you don't read into every little minute detail like a crazed stalker.

Then, if you don't hear anything, call her in about 2-3 days and just be like "Wuddup...?" Don't even talk about the date unless she mentions it. You have to let this chick know you have other things going on in your life other than the picture collection on your wall you have of her.