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Mishanya · #6 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 12:24 PM

Hi brkn dreamz

Welcome to LF!!!

Hmmm. It's a pickle isn't it.

First of all what you did in 04 was wrong.

"I'm not going to into much details but it all started back in jan '04 when I called it quits because of a job I took and felt that I was going to be way too busy to give him the love and affection he needed." by brkn dreamz

It sounds like you used him as a commodity for a number of years and dumped him because your life style had no more room for him. This is a serious betrayl of trust issue and I am not quite sure if this damage is repairable. If you really loved him like you mentioned in your post i don't think you would have taken an action like this. Are you sure you love him??? (Because there are many other feelings which are very similar to that) Moving right along...

In your post you are not detailing how you and Jon got back together after the break up which you initiated. Who initiated the reunification? How long ago did you get back together? Were both parties happy at the reunification or was one party feeling like "still hurt, but settling"? How old are you and him?

"We always break up on and off " by brkn dreamz

I think this also is an issue, which exposes deep holes in your relationship. Even in the heat of a moment it is not normal to shower the other person with ultimatums and abrupt ends.

"I got ahold of his cell bill from online and it shows the month he was talking to her on the phone." and "we trust each other to tell the truth." by brkn dreamz

From what you describe, there is NO trust in your relationship at all. I trust a crow with my sandwich, more than you trust this man in your relationship. I guess, it all depends on how much tape you have to patch these many holes. However i will abstained from making any conclusions before i see responses to my questions...