Mishanya:

When we first got together in '01 I had a job and it was working as an overnight cashier which meant it was from 11:30pm-8:45am. During that time he didn't understand how important having a job was since there were a lot of bills for me. As stupid as it sounds I quit that job because he would complain and tell me not to go to work. Even after another job I had for a breif while he would come into my working place and cause trouble and made me look bad. When I wanted to break up with him because of that job I had 2 jobs going for me. During the day I would go into work with my mom as a contracted database programmer and at night I was going into workshops for cellphone industries. I had a lot going for me and I just didn't want to deal with him having me choose between my job and him like before. I only wanted a one month time apart to get settled into the job. Yes, I do love him but I didn't want him to take my job away from me which was my only source of income.

The unification was both him and I. He was still hurt and I was hurt too since he was hurting. I know I was happy to be with him again and did everything I could to show him but I knew he was anger and still hurt inside. I'm in my mid-20's and he's 4 yrs younger than I am.

He and I were on an off because of the anger he had inside and was unsure if I was going to leave him for someone else. His exact words during that time was, "You're just going to be with me until you find someone else that can treat you better." which is not true. I don't believe in if it get's too hard find someone else. I like working things out and have a resolution.

Girls have intuition and a gut feeling. While I found out bits and pieces of this situation I knew he wasn't telling me the truth and at this time I had no trust because he likes to "minimize" in his words. He left his password to his account where he know I would see it, so I went and looked. He said that I always find things out either way and there was no need for him to tell me everything. Since he found out on his own he wanted me to find out on my own. Trust is easy to break, but hard to gain. We are both working on it. The 2 previous years before the first incident is what lead to it but it's personal and it's in the past and he knows what he did wrong and it's no one's business.

Why did you quote me saying "we trust each other to tell the truth." by brkn dreamz- I looked all over my own post and I couldn't find where I said that.