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Mishanya · #9 (**permalink**) 06-09-05, 01:28 PM

brkn dreamz:

Okay, the picture is now a little bit clearer. You did not indicate that he made you choose between himself and your job in your earlier post (I was under impression it was an accomodation choice made by you). This does paint him more in a negative light (As controlling and needy). It looks like his behaviour is very repetitive.

Why does he have anger and hurt inside? Is it due to you breaking up with him in 04 or due to some other issues?

"Why did you quote me saying "we trust each other to tell the truth." by brkn dreamz-"

I did copy and paste this from somewhere, but now that you mentioned it, i can't seem find it either. If i misrepresnted you in any way, then i'm very sorry. The reference i was trying to make was to the trust issue. If you don't have any trust in him (To the point where you have to lookup his phone bills or spy on him to make sure he's living up to his words) that's a serious problem. I mean, how are you planning to live with this person if you constanly have to worry and look over his shoulder?

"The 2 previous years before the first incident is what lead to it but it's personal and it's in the past and he knows what he did wrong and it's no one's business. " By brkn dreamz

I am not quite sure what you are reffering to here. I think none of this is my bussiness, I am only trying to help.

Breaking up on and off is very unhealthy in a relationship (Does not matter who initiates it). One break up is enough to cause serious damage, you really don't need many. I can understand your feelings here:

"I don't believe in if it get's too hard find someone else. I like working things out and have a resolution."

But maybe the resolution in this case is letting him go??? (Or do you think you have enough patching tape and heartache in you to carry this on?)