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Jeblina · #41 (**permalink**) 07-09-05, 12:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Lloyd95

Ok Jeblina, here is what I would want to hear from you if I were your boyfriend:

"I was very happy the other day when you told me you loved, as I feel the same way about you-I love you too. And I care about you a great deal which is why I'm going to say what I'm about to say. I thought I noticed that you were high. If you weren't, fine. Maybe I'm being paranoid about it b/c of my previous addiction. However, because of that addiction, I think I know the signs (list signs here).

Since I care about you, and love you, I want to help you overcome it and get help... we can beat it together; I did, so I know you can too, as you're as strong or stronger than I am/was. Also, you have your beautiful daughter to think about, just as I am constantly reminded by my own daughter, what a good choice I made by being drug free."

On the lines of that.

Wow....that's really good...because that's pretty close to what I was thinking about saying. I just don't want him to blow up and run off again because he thinks I'm "accusing" him...rather than just asking, or being concerned.

The problem now is how to go about talking to him....I haven't talked to him since the blowup on Saturday night.....I've stopped trying to call him so he could have a "cooling off" period. So what's my next move? Do I wait for him to call me? Can I try calling him again (it's been a day and a half since I tried calling him)? I may have to go up to his work today to buy supplies for my horses (but would really like to avoid that at all costs if he's not speaking to me....I don't want to be smothering)......I just don't know the best thing to do....this is all new to me.......