Ellynn gives a very good advice. Being kind and offer to pay dinner and an occasional present or flowers is part of the game of dating, and you shouldn't even think about why you're doing it
But paying someone's loan or debt, or buying bigger and permanent things should be thought of carefully. There will be a time when you two will be sharing your lives, and that time is marriage (or long-running stable relationship), and your economy will be a single one. You are very kind of thinking about helping her with the car, but if you engage yourself in this, she may feel guilty or in debt with you. It's best that no one feels in debt with the other until you two believe you're going to be a couple forever.
Originally Posted by misombra
it's a mexican story i think. the flavor hasn't gotten you up in penn. yet.
Not to be picky, but the story is older than Mexico. We had that story in Latin class in high school (translation exercise), I don't know the author but it was definitely a roman novelist, who in turn probably got the idea from a traditional story!
