Okay, so far it doesn't sound like you're the POS others might end up being in a situation like this so that's good.

Here's what I think. Tell your husbandm "Listen, I've voiced my concerns before but you have not listened. Seriously, if things don't improve, I think we're going to end up divorced. To be honest, I don't really think I would mind. If you want however, we can talk about this and try to work through it. Honestly, thing's aren't good, but if you want to try and improve things, we can, but I'm not promising anything."

Basically, I'd never throw away a long term relationship without both sides knowing the complete story and having an opportunity, if they wish, to make things better.

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