Reverie, back to your first post...

i read all the other posts, and if i was you, i'd still be confused as to what to do... so.. i'm not gonna sit here and tell u some mumbo jumbo that has the words "feels" and "time" all over it..

here are the facts, the way i see them...

u and ur husband loved each other, and used to do everything together.. he got a job.. u only saw him 2 hours a day..

think about it.. quite a transition no?? from doing everything together, to spending only 2 hours together?? it's no wonder u feel like u lost that connection with him.. 2 hours a day is nothing.. i spend more time with my dog than that..

now.. about the other person.. it's not that u've grown feelings for that person... don't mix up your emotions... what u miss is being wanted, cared for, loved... and ur husband is simply not there enough for u.. but he does still love u..

u thinking that u have grown feelings for someone else is due to the fact that u simply miss that companionship with your husband, and that u what someone.. anyone.. to make up for it.. obviously not worth doing..

there's only one thing to do... hit the root of the problem.. the 2 hours a day...

u have to tell him to find a new job.. if it doesn't make as much money.. u both have to adapt to the new lifestyle, but know it's only temporary.. and only a small price to pay, so both of u can hold on to what u once had together..

i'm shur u'll find a way to convince him... as for losing the connection... i don't think it's actually faded away... kissing him, having sex, even spending time with him has no meaning anymore, and i don't blame u... guys are practical... 2 hours is 2 hours.. and they'll make the most of it... but i'm shur it's not the same way for u... u need much more than that.. and ur 100% right.. anything less would feel robotic, mechanical, fake, like a chore..

but don't worry about that.. i'm willing to bet my life on it that it's only the result of the 2 hours... when u start spending more time together.. it won't feel different right away... but u'll go through the same transition... u'll start to remember how things used to be.. and the whole expiriance would have made both of u stronger.. and much closer to eachother... it's something to look foward to accomplishing.. not letting go of...

just talk to him about it.. and don't take his crap for an answer.. it has to be YOUR way... for the better of both of you... he's GOING to quit his job and find on other one with better hours, if he likes it or not... next sunday he has off.. i think it's worth spending the whole day telling him..

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