Originally Posted by updraft
You need to tell hub that you're NOT HAPPY with married life with him. At least give him a chance to fix things...if he doesnt then you know the answer. There are about 3 billion other men on the planet why settle for this one???
I too cared for my ex-hub but that too disappeared after I met Marc, my current bf. You quickly forget once someone new comes on the scene and showers you with attention, affection, good conversation, good sex, etc
One side note: dont wait until you're tempted to cheat....either separate or divorce your hub before you move on....it just causes headaches down the road...
For the first part, I'd agree. I do think that you need to tell your husband that you're not happy with married life because of the lack of time spent together, etc. If you're ultimately unhappy with him, then there really isn't much of a choice but to leave. I agree with Updraft in the sense that you shouldn't settle for something that doesn't make you happy. The only issue here is to decide how many chances and how much time to give him to change. If it's too short, you might realize that after you've left and it's too late that he was actually doing a great thing, much like Lloyd was inferring. If it's too long, you'll regret that you gave him such a big chance, and you 'wasted so much time' on him. But there is really no escaping that consequence... and in any case, it's a crappy one because they both lead to regret.
As for the second part of Updraft's post, I'd say.. not necessarily. I guess if this person really is that 'right' person, then you may kinda forget about everyone else you've had.. regardless of whether this person showers you with attention or not. But what if... the right person is someone you've met, and someone else comes along and showers you with good conversation, affection, etc.? Would you forget then? I, for one, would not. I think that once the 'right' person comes, you never forget the time you spend together, no matter what anyone else does afterward. The good times, the best times of your life spent with the greatest connection... nothing.. NOTHING could ever erase that.