Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO
i'm VERY aware of the problem, and I know it's dynamics etc etc etc but HOW do I fix it?!
We can't exactly tell you how to fix it. I mean yeah we could...but its a matter of you really taking it into consideration what we are saying and actually changing how you are. I do think therapy is the way to go on that. Because this is something you have grown up thinking was ok.
You need to let things go. Stop competing w/people..... Be happy for them. You are your own person....and you might excel in some things while you lack in others....but thats normal and ok. Everyone is different....but if you love someone you have to realize that you have to let them grow as a person....and encourage and support them instead of insulting or hindering them.
If you feel anger coming on......take a deep breath....really think about why your angry....and ask yourself....."Is it worth it?"
Honestly Im no Dr. Phil......or licensed therapist......but that is what I would do in the situation. But then again I don't know what its like to be in your shoes...