you sound alot like my ex. anyways he couldn't stand it if i did anything better than him. it was kinda all about control. i never did anything like say i won you lost, ha ha ha. it was just any little thing that i did better he got really pissed off about. what i did was start to notice more of what he did accomplish and give him lot's of compliments. in the end that didn't seem to work to much either though. but i do give you alot of credit for seeing what you are doing wrong and trying to make better of it, good luck to you.