One word of caution is kids. Do you have any? Personally, when you have children, you need to give up all your needs and wants for a relationship and worry about holding together a family.

The other thing is to understand priorities, the needs of making a living, covering the house, bills, & etc. I try very hard to keep my gf company when I can, but she's been very irritated that I don't have the time to keep her company like I used to. She needs to start understanding the priorities I have in life and school. Granted, you're married and I'm not, but I do believe that the idea is the same. If he's doing what he needs to do to handle major lifetime priorities, don't worry too much about it. At least he's working hard to build a foundation for your life.

Anyhow, why not talk with him online (your husband, that is)?

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