Originally Posted by poweredbuyer
I mean if a girl is into you would she tease or be straight up and want to make a move as well. Also, complimenting her and being the nice guy doesn't work as much does it.
In my experience, no; a woman's not likely to be straight-up about much at all in the beginning. (Being straight-up is your job and, often, embarrassment.) She's more likely to toss out little trip wires all over the place to check-out your resolve and how well you negotiate them. After you've persuaded her of your sincerity and hopped her hurdles stylishly enough, THEN she might start being straight-up in more ways than you'd like. The kiss question might have been an example of her taking your reading. Had she asked me that, I would've responded with something like, "Kissing you is something I've wanted to do since I first saw you." Or: "What's it about? Who can say? Kiss me and let's find out." Or anythng that was decidely forward and aimed directly and clearly at my -- for starters -- putting my hands and lips on all her warm, wet places.
Initial attractions that threaten to turn serious usually involve two people doing the same thing: Getting their mutual interest in each other across without suggesting it's given lightly. While you might be trying to let her know you desire her without appearing to be a brute or whore monger, she may be trying to express her interest in you without appearing to be a loose woman or a slut. Hence, five seconds hugs instead of hip-grinding embraces. "Nice guy" considerations are well and good, but only as far as they go. And they go only so far as to invite further escalation of interest. After that, they're rather superfluous except as a formality, or a short-hand method of expressing affectionate regard...the latter being a very good reason to never altogether dispense with gentlemanly behavior.
It not so much a game as it is a process of elimination. Sense what threatens her. Eliminate the threats and you eliminate obstacles. (You must, first, of course, eliminate obstacles within yourself.)
There is one threat you should never, never, ever eliminate, though: The threat of romance. As long as a woman feels as if she might be romanced at any moment -- preferably, by surprise -- she remains vital, vivacious, sparkling and a joy to be with. Take that away and you end up with anything from a crumpled wash rag of a person to a screaming and vindictive shrew.
Same holds true of men, naturally. They just turn into different, equally unpleasant -- or untrustworthy -- creatures when "the thrill" goes away.
All of which, prompts me to start another thread on a subject I'd be interested in hearing people's thoughts on. See: "What is flirting?" in the General Discussion forum.