Why does sex have to be about love and relationships? Why is it a dirty/sordid thing to have sex with someone you know but don't want to get emotionally involved with because the timing isn't right?


I have issues with feeling desirable and attractive. When I get close to a guy I feel they are having sex with me because they are in a relationship with me as opposed to just finding me attractive. Or that they are "settling" for me. Or feel sorry for me. That they really don't want to be with me. I know it sounds messed up. It is. But I feel very unattractive and it gets me down. That is why I am taking time on my own to work on these issues. I am undertaking therapy for these issues as it really affects my relationships.