I happened to catch Oprah today. I dont generally watch daytime television, but I was sick today and put myself to bed for a few hours. Just as I was turning the TV off so that I could rest, Oprah comes on - and the topic of the day was "What are men really thinking?"... with a panel of 3 men to answer womens questions, and a 4th: the author of "How to Remodel Your Man" (Bruce Cameron).

Anybody else see this one?

They made men out to be very simple creatures. No emotions. Not thinking anything at all like women do - not "feeling" beyond basic instincts and such.

For example, a woman asked "what do men think about right after sex?". She stated that women are thinking about long-term, the relationship itself, where its going etc. The men said they are basically doing an instant replay of the sexual act, deciding what to eat now, etc.

Another question was "why do men look at porn?". There was a statistic shared. I think "80% of men between the ages of 20 and 34 look at porn on the internet at least once a month" - according to their poll.

The women wanted to know why. The men wanted to know "why not?". Basically the answer was "because its there".

As for cuddling - I believe it was said that women love to be close, have that emotional connection. Men only do it because they know their women want to (concentrated effort). OR because they want to have sex. They dont just naturally want to be close and affectionate. They only feel that way "naturally" when they want to initiate sex.


I'm not sure I buy all of this. Especially after hanging out here and getting to know some of the men on LF. You guys seem to have feelings and emotions - more than just basic primal instincts. I get some of it, some of it I thought was extreme. Some of it I thought was just a cop-out.


As for Bruce's book, I checked it out on Amazon - sheer curiosity. The first line of the book is: Women are willing to purchase a man off the rack, but then they want to take him home and make alterations. Supposedly the whole book is more humor than it is anything like "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" (which I havent read either).


So guys... any of you like to cuddle up? As in, truly like to spoon or jump under a blanket to watch a good movie (even if sex isnt on the menu)??

Any of you think you might be offended if you caught your GF looking at porn online on a regular basis?

Any of you look at a girl you've just had mind-blowing sex with and wonder what the future holds, or think about how much you love her?


Just curious...