Interesting. But actually the second dream you mentioned was my daughters dream. She dreamed he and her brother were homeless because I died on my birthday. And the fourth one (the recurring dream) involved no man - other than the fact that a man in my life had the same dream while we were dating.

As for sabotage... I dont see that (though I may be too close to it all to be objective). This last relationship, for example, I dont feel I was in the wrong in any way. I was lied to, mistreated, etc - so I broke it off. Am I missing something?

I think I am more often sabotaging myself (LOL) realizing now that I have (unintentionally) chose men (OR attracted men) that are much like my father.