Well you should not have told him that you are a virgin. That kind of puts a guy in a different mindset than normal, especially a younger guy. When you said that to a guy who is not a virgin it is almost impossible not to want to have at her so to speak just because it would be her first time and that’s always fun and exciting and weird and all that at the same time. It is also quite fun for a guy who has been with other chicks to show things to a virgin for the first time. The whole notch in the belt thing comes into play.

At the same time, saying virgin adds a whole lot of baggage and feeling into things that guys with experience really don’t want to deal with unless the girl is someone you would ask to marry you. As much as guys want to be with a virgin, they don’t want to deal with all the assumptions and clinging and hurt that being with a virgin can bring if you’re not really serious about them.

I recommend not having sex at all because I think this guy fits the bill of someone who would have sex with you but is not really serious at all about a long term relationship. If you tell a new guy that you’re a virgin early on you will most likely have this problem. Don’t tell people you are a virgin if you don’t want to be screwed as a notch and then dumped because of baggage. Obviously you will tell them but don’t do it for as long as you can, when he asks you about sex just talk about it in general terms and don’t mention how many people that you have been with.

Here is how you can tell if he is serious with you, don’t give him any at all, period. Only kiss and caress no tit grabbing, no crotch grabbing or heavy contact. I mean for months, if you still go out after 6 months of only dating and kissing and generally caressing then good. But if only a few weeks go by and you get the feeling that if you don’t give him anything then he will dump you then oh well let him go. Well sorry sweet heart but that’s usually what happens. But it is for the best, being with a bunch of guys is not usually best for women. Trust me it is much easier for a young woman to get another boyfriend who will care about them then it is to get over all that first time heartache and hurtful feelings and such.

good luck