If he's as self-conscious as you say about the distinctions in your respective social standing, I'm not suprised he's also overly jealous (if not controlling).

He's right, you know. He's not good enough for you. And it has nothing to do with money. It has to do with his insecurities.

His financial standing may not matter to you, but yours does to him. As long as he perceives that difference between you as a barrier, it will also be a threat to him. There's nothing you can do to change his outlook. He has to do it all by himself. Until he does, you can give him the world, and he'd still find reasons to resent you for it.

And, god forbid, you enjoy a bit of leisure among your circle of family or acquaintances who are not also his. They, too, are threats. They remind him of what he hasn't accomplished.

Being with you underscores what he thinks are his inadequacies. You and yours remind him of what he doesn't have. You're a threat. You threaten his self-esteem. He can't see what you see in him becasue he can't see you. Only what you have that he doesn't. And, at heart, it probably wouldn't matter if he could. He'd just be forever suspicious you were with him only to go "slumming" with and see how the other half lives.

The ex? Well, her he can help (and feel as if he's making a contribution). You? In his eyes, you don't need any help he can offer.

That's one dynamic. There are a few others with a bit of a different spin to them, but they all orbit like an infinity symbol around the same two things: insecurity and low self-esteem.

He's probably angry most of the time. At base, though, not at anyone but himself.

Chances are, he'll allow his perceived short-comings to get the better of him and find reasons to not continue with you.

So it is that wealth -- or even being just well-to-do -- creates a great divide even when we'd rather it didn't. Nothing to do with the wealth at all. Only to do how it's perceived. For those who have any, it's merely a means to ends. For those who have little, it's a thing onto itself. Which, more often than not, blinds them to who people really are, and to what they're really offering.

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