Chya, I'm inclined to believe that they can work.... probably because I'm in one. I mean, its real easy to predict all the horrible things that will happen and that you'll feel if you're in one, but honestly, if you're not in one and never have been, its not really something you should pass judgement on.

First off, any relationship will have its stresses. Its the way it works. People seem to think that adding distance is like putting a piano on a house of cards, when in reality, its just another card or two. It may be the one that makes or breaks the relationship, but its just another card. Everyone seems to have a big insecurity about trust, as if they all think "well if I can't see them, I'll assume the worst, and If I trust them, I'm being naive." As I've said before, if your love is invested in a good person, (or at least not necesarily a stupid one), than it will often be a self-fulfilling prophecy. You don't have trust in someone, they have nothing to break, and will do what they want. You do have trust in someone, and they will feel obligated in their fidelity and loyalty. I know you people in normal relationships wouldn't like to think you have to be watched all the time, so why would it be different with distance? If you think I'm dumb for thinking this way, than I'll be dumb and happy in the assumption that my gf is loyal to me and me alone. And if you think even bringing up worries and issues in a LDR is going to cause someone to blow it out of proportion, you're wrong again. Obviously its really only for rational people who can keep their head straight. I know its hard, even I have a difficult time with it, but I don't see why I should suspect someone far away anymore than someone close by. You'll never be around someone 24 hours a day, and you'll never read minds, so you might as well realize that trust is trust no matter where you are.

Distance is only a physical measure of the space between people. Like I said, we're all some distance away, and you can't see your SO anytime you want. Distance does not apply to emotion. You can feel the same way about someone, love 'em or hate 'em, no matter where you are in the world. Its the genuiness of our actions and words that create a strong relationship, not the number of hours it takes to see someone, or how long you'll have to wait. All our lives are separate, whether we love someone or not, and therefore it doesn't matter if someone is living their life away from you. If they love you, and you love them, its the way it is. Given, you can't go you're whole life without being with them, but if you've been with that person, invested time, money, emotion, stress, love, frustration, and everything that comes along with any relationship, than distance is not going to be a barrier. Everyone loves to have an excuse as to why things can't work, an easy way to get out of something you can't cope with. But, in fact, distance is not something that destroys a relationship, but the people and how they deal with it. If you can see someone, be with them, talk to them with passion and honesty, no matter how often these things happen, then you can love them. There may be some unwanted geography in a long distance relationship, but thats all it is, and its still just a relationship.

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