bah.. I just wrote this entire reply but my stupid browser killed it. Miff.
Originally Posted by daletom
I didn't post it to brag, or to be cute, but because it's what really happened.
didn't mean to imply otherwise.
Originally Posted by daletom
My first time is described here:
Wedding Night Virgins , and you may want to look at other posts in that thread - they point you (and your B/F!) to some good advice.
Quite a story, thanks for sharing. I read most of that thread. I heard the "Have an orgasm before" bit before. I just fear being in a catch-22 situation; that is, need to have 'proper' orgasm to have sex, need sex to have 'proper' orgasm. Some further experimentation has to be carried out though
Originally Posted by daletom
YES! It runs thru our movies, advertising, novels - wherever you look, the sex is almost always collosal and stupendous. Even the first time. And if it isn't, that becomes an instant justification for somebody to move on to another partner. Help your B/F understand something that you seem to be catching on to: Like golf, long division, public speaking, or a jillion other activities the first attempts are seldom even mediocre, but it gets better with practice.
(fictional) stupendous sex is everywhere yes, but that doesn't in itself imply that it's all the guys responsibility
lol, I guess us girls should be happy guys want to please us, but no, we have to complain.
He does understand that, but I don't think logic has a very big impact on the pressure, you know? We have and will definitely talk about our feelings (probably in meticulous detail knowing me) beforehand.
I'm really grateful for the responses so far
I'll keep you posted. Oh, btw, when this thread is old and I have an update, are you supposed to post it in the old thread or start a new one or what?