That's a pretty difficult situation your in there.

Yikes, I think the main thing here is that you both did things for certain reasons. I think you pushed her away thinking she would always be there no matter what and how you treated her (maybe without thinking about it). That backfired on you and then she tried to get back at you and is now dealing with her consequences.

I don't know if I would necessarily just accept what she is telling you right now. She did just have this baby and post pardum depression takes a toll on someone. Not saying it makes you say things you don't feel, but woman are very emotional in these times and It can last up to or longer than a year in some cases. So to take her word on all this, is not really the best idea. She's probably very remorseful and is exressing that but when her eotions go back in order.....she could feel something totally different. Keep that in mind.

On top of that, her having this child and it being a "constant" reminder of what she did is a big thing in this case. If you guys do get back together you will have to step up to the plate and take on some kind of role. It is not your child but I'm assuming this child would be living with her and that adds even more salt to a open wound. Are you ready for that role of "step parent" to a child of the person she cheated on you with? The child deserves everythign in the world but in this case, I'm just talking about you here!

So Unless you feel you can let water on the bridge on all these I would suggest you move on. It's bad enough you two having these problems, but trying to work on them and learning how to take on a whole other role of "step parent" is a very very big responsibility!

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