He is truly separated. He lives in an apartment 5 minutes from the house they both used to live in that she lives in now. They have a 16 yr old who tried to kill himself last year and just got out of 5 mos of rehab about a month ago.

I asked about the future partner stuff just last month (the 5th month). It was the first time I ever asked anything about what he thought of our future.

About 1.5 mos into the relationship he said "I'm going to be very careful what I say to you and not say things I don't mean. <that was really comforting :roll eyes:> I'm going to try to be very honest with you and myself. There are 2 hearts involved here." He got very serious and said he was falling in love with me sometime between 1.5-2 mos actually. A short time later he said: "I'm very cautious about saying 'I love you'". A week later he said it to me :roll eyes:.. the day after his wife got arrested. He was a mess and I ended up "nursing" him at my place. He said that's what prompted him to say it. He told me: "I thought to myself 'This person really cares about me!'"

So think he when asked me if I want to build a life with him it was just an act of desperation because I said I might break it off?