Don't follow Ekips' advice to lose weight. He means well, but it may actually cause you to store more fat. Try eating smaller (keyword: smaller), more frequent meals to boost your metabolism. Strive for 6-8 meals a day. Adding protein and spices to your diet will induce a thermogenic effect. You can also drink green tea, which has plenty of anti-oxidants.

It sounds to me like you aren't doing anything to change your weight. Women will continue to see you as fat. That's just human nature. Some women may look past your looks and get to know your personality. However, realize they are not obligated to. I'm tired of people saying "looks don't matter." It's hard to be intimate with someone you are not physically attracted to. I suggest you try losing weight. You sound like a good person. If you work on your appearance, I think you can be successful with women.