Originally Posted by daletom
the MOST important sex organ is between the ears
thank god, a guy finally agrees with me.. I haven't met many men who get that it's almost completely mental. For me, anyways. I mean, everything I had read about 'outercourse' was mechanical, and just left me kind of cold. The best part isn't mechanical. It's when he whispers 'it's ok, babe' in my ear. hm. I'm getting all tingly just thinking about it
Originally Posted by daletom
I'd like to see you start a new thread [...] Just don't be jotting down notes while your guy is deflowering you
hehe, ok, thanks
Originally Posted by daletom
Restricting a couple's pre-marital lovemaking to kisses, fondling, "bundling", etc forced them to not only learn to read each others' responses, but also taught some very pleasurable things to incorporate into married lovemaking.
I concur, though nowadays it seems to me hardly anybody waits for marriage. I know my B/F would run just at the mention of that heh
Those that do wait could also be people who are made to believe that all sexual things are dirty, so they don't engage in meaningful outercourse, .. or they rush impatiently into marriage and later get divorced, though I don't know how often that happens. It really depends on the people. Certainly waiting, even if it's not for marriage, is good. Hey, sort the good ones from the bad ones, eh? I try to tell myself, if the guy can't wait for you he isn't worth it anyway. Gah, it's harder in real life.
Originally Posted by daletom
They tell me you can get pregnant from heavy petting
Yeah, I've heard that too. I also had a 'scare' involving a late cycle, though I think it's probably very unlikely to get pregnant that way. I suppose going on birth control like the pill would put my mind at ease. I was thinking about that implant thing that goes under the skin in your arm and releases hormones over 3 years. no remembering pills, and it's instant.. and I can get it for free. The problem with all hormonal things is all the stuff you have to put up with. Some women get great skin and no periods from them, others bleed for months, get acne and get fat.
Originally Posted by daletom
Discuss this in broad daylight.
the advantage of a long distance relationship is that you get to talk and talk and talk about things, and we talk (and talk) about anything that could build resentment in the future.. almost excessively, we've recently realised..
Originally Posted by daletom
not at midnight in his dorm room
Good advice
gosh, I'm glad we've usually had an apartment to ourselves. Except the thing where the guest room is under my parents room.. I don't like that..
Originally Posted by daletom
it triggers my sadistic need to find out if they really know what they're talking about.
haha.. I see.
I would dig up some obscure phrase you used somewhere here and throw it back at you by using phrases.org.uk to look it up, but it turns out I'm just much too lazy.
thanks again for your time, it's been really helpful
-T