Well, you don't say how old you both are, but judging from what you wrote, I am going to guess early to mid 20s?

I think it is too bad he wasn't a better source of support for you when you needed him, and I don't want it to look like I am excusing his inattentiveness, but honestly, if I am right about your ages, it is possible he simply didn't know HOW to help you. Sadly, many people crack when exposed to adverse conditions, but they improve with age and experience.

About the "I love you bit": yes, some guys will lie about their feelings to get a girl to sleep with them, but did he say this in an attempt to get you into bed, or did he say it afterwards? Because if it was afterwards, I don't see what he could gain by telling you this. Besides, you were more than some slut he picked up in a bar - you were the girl he invested a portion of his life with. I am inclined to believe him.

If he is generally a good guy, I would ignore what his friends say and make your own decision. People change a lot in their 20s. If you decide to give it one more shot, just take it slow.

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