I had trouble reading your english but here goes anyway;

Relationships are give and take. It sounds like you're generous and you maybe go along with what she says too much. Her taking your willing over-generousness for granted is one thing; you'd just have to say "sorry, but I don't want to" and that would sort that out, unless she's a spoilt brat who cant take no for an answer.

But her telling you "do this for me or i'll get mad and leave you" is another thing. Frankly.. If that was me, i'd just say, "fine then, I don't want to be your slave anyway"

Look at this way; if you just keep going along with her orders, you will start resenting her and stop wanting to be with her. And that will lead to a messy end for the two of you.

But if you stand up for yourself, she can either get pissed and leave you, in which case you're better off without her. Or, she can learn to treat you better. Either way, you're better off.

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