This is going to seem like I am just trying to be really mean and hurtful, but I'm not.

Loooook buddy. She's sick, she's f'ed up in the head, she's a narcissist. MESSED UP. Get away now. She doesn't love you, she never did, she is not trying to get the best of both worlds, what is it to her to send you a few txt msg's now and then and maybe see you and flirt a little. If she ever really starts having marital problems, she'll probably start sleeping with you, but that won't mean anything either.

She doesn't give two sh*ts about you, she loves keeping you on the hook, giving her confirmation that she is wanted by other men, and most importantly, SHE LOOOOOVES that you are so miserable over her. You amuse her. She gets off on it. She'll keep squeezing you into a little ball until you're nothing.

Forget her and all of her sick games. Get out there and start living again. You don't need her kind of "love".