It depends on how soon her operation is supposed to occur. If it is relatively soon, then yes - wait until after, and be sure to give her some time to heal before you do it. Mainly you want to be sure that when she has this surgery she is able to focus her energies on her recovery rather than mourning over you. I think that is the most humane thing to do, but others may disagree. This is a tricky situation.

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