Well yeah, I know what you both mean...

If you play to whole "I'm a friend and a bit wuss bag" card then sure, it'll get you nowhere, not even friend status sometimes but when I say playing around and stuff like that it's kinda like us mocking each other and stuff like that. You know, don't treat her like a goddess in herself, that just looks needy obviously, but have a bit more fun with her and since I have tried to move towards this rather than being a "nice guy" ALL of the time I notice you get a lot more of a responce from women as in they want to talk to you and find you interesting because you tease them and stuff and maybe seem like more of a challenge and more fun than the guys who are falling over themselves to be with her but still when it comes down to it, they always go for the looks.
What ya gonna do, such is life I suppose but it's really hard I mean, you try your best to look after yourself in how you look and act and dress and can get that sorted but you can't change the bad bits your born with and thats what your judged on...