I suppose there's a sort of favours-balance in a relationship-- like, she helps him move, he gives her a lift, etc. Though it probably shouldn't extend to finding them jobs, or worrying about how much the other makes at work.
So, Zarathu, do you think your problem is caused because you feel unhelpful/useless if she's already got her shit together-- or would you not help her get it together if she didn't have it together, in order to keep her 'below' you so to speak?
Originally Posted by vashti
By the way, lots of males have this problem. I know this because lots of my beautiful, highly accomplished female friends have a hard time getting dates once men find out what they do for a living.
that's messed up, you'd think being accomplished would make them more attractive.