I don't think your overreacting about the job issue at all! As someone who has worked since I was 15 continueously, I think its important to find a man with a good work ethic.

Take time before you let him move in. Actions speak louder then words. If he can prove to you hes responsible and VERY serious about changing by actually doing it, then I would consider taking things further by letting him move in.

But, beware, he could think that once he moves in its easy street from there. But, remember, you can always kick him out if he doesn't keep up his end of the bargain.

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