Originally Posted by Ellynn
Yes, it wasn't the brightest idea to give her a ring when she was dating someone else.
Ok, so you gave her that ring a month ago right? You said clearly when you proposed to her that she should "take two weeks to decide yes/no." Now, shes avoiding you and a month has passed.
Not quite. I asked her to take at least two weeks to think it over, but if she needed more time, take as much time as she needs.
You do realize that more then likely shes dating other guys right? Or at least that other guy.
Just him.
I'm sorry, but as a female, I would never accept a ring until I was sure and actually said YES to a proposal.
Then why did she take the ring. She could have said no right then. She had PLENTY of time to say no after two weeks. She passed up two opportunites to meet with me and return the ring. I realize that even if she doesn't want to marry me that she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. But I also think if you know the answer is no that you normally wouldn't drag it out this long. It's been over 6 weeks now that she has the ring.
I would get that ring back, ASAP. Its not fair to you that you put your life on hold to wait for her to "decide".
In fairness to her, I did this to myself. I dropped a bombshell on her. She wasn't expecting me to ask her to marry me.
I think she's had plenty of time. I don't think that would be considered pressure at all. I just don't think she is ready for marriage with you or anyone else. I also don't think she sees you as someone she wants to marry and doesn't know how to tell you no. She sees you as a friend and honestly I doubt that will ever change.
I think for your sake, you should get the ring back and move on with your life. Let her go, don't contact her etc.
Do you think it's unreasonable to ask her where she stands? Depending on what she says I could either give her more time to decide (if she says she doesn't know) or if she says no, I would just ask for the ring back and move on.