Then why did she take the ring. She could have said no right then. She had PLENTY of time to say no after two weeks. She passed up two opportunites to meet with me and return the ring. I realize that even if she doesn't want to marry me that she doesn't want to hurt my feelings. But I also think if you know the answer is no that you normally wouldn't drag it out this long. It's been over 6 weeks now that she has the ring.

I wonder why she took the ring myself. Personally if I didn't want to marry the guy, I wouldn't have. Even if I was unsure, I wouldn't have. But, she did. But, keep in mind, just because she did take the ring, that doesn't mean she is considering marrying you. If she needed money she could easily pawn it. Or if she wanted to see how much you spent, she could have it appraised. I still think it is selfish of her to keep you waiting and not to at least give you the decency of an honest answer.

In fairness to her, I did this to myself. I dropped a bombshell on her. She wasn't expecting me to ask her to marry me.
True, but just because you asked her to marry you does NOT mean she had to take the ring! IF she needed time she should have told you, and rejected the ring until she was sure.


Do you think it's unreasonable to ask her where she stands? Depending on what she says I could either give her more time to decide (if she says she doesn't know) or if she says no, I would just ask for the ring back and move on.