Originally Posted by Ellynn
How much time do you honestly plan on giving her? A few more weeks? A month? A year? 5 years? Chances are if she doesn't know by now what she wants, she probably never will. I don't think its unreasonable at all to ask her where she stands. Its just UNFAIR of HER to NOT give you an answer.
I agree with you, I just don't know how much time is enough. I was thinking about sending her an email. How can I ask her where she stands without pressuring her?
I don't care what her family says about the man she's dating, what you say, or anyone else for that matter. The fact is that she is with him. She obviously wants to be and theres not alot you can do to change that. Let it go. It would be doing yourself a big favor in the long run.
I'd be able to let go if she would tell me what she is thinking. I know she is unsure of this guy so if I "let her go" or take the ring back now I will basically be telling her that I lied when I said "take as much time as you need to make a decision."
That's my dillema. I should have given her a timetable to respond but I know when we do that to people, when we back them in a corner, they will certainly do the opposite of what you want.
I just want to figure out a way to see where her head is at without "pressuring" her or yanking the ring back. She will give the ring back, that I am sure of, if I ask for it.