I see what you are saying about not wanting to pressure her.

But, she has had like 4 weeks already right?

You do realize this could turn into a very long process.

If you don't mind, then I guess your only option is to wait until things don't work out with her current bf and then she has you to fall back on. You do realize that this is whats gonna happen if you don't confront her. She will then come running back to you and things will work for awhile until she realizes deep down once again she does not feel anything more then friendship for you. The cycle will then repeat itself.

I think she is paritally to blame for leading you on. If she only thinks of you as a friend, then she should distance herself enough to let you realize that. I think that is what she is trying to do now, but still, she SHOULD return the ring.

Personally, I would confront her. Just tell her how you feel about her etc. Also, let her know that your offer still stands with wanting to be together commitment wise etc. But, until she is ready for all that, I would ask for the ring back. Because, what is the point of holding onto a ring if your not sure or you don't want to marry a person? Why would you even hold onto it if your supposidly into someone else?

If your worried about driving her away, I wouldn't. I mean how much more could you possibly drive her away? She won't even talk to you now! She makes excuses not to see you! YOu have nothing now, so whats wrong with at least confronting her and at least getting an answer out of her? You really have nothing to lose. SHE OWES THAT TO YOU!

But, I think her holding onto it is giving you false hope. I think its making you think you stand a chance with getting her to marry you. But, the facts are she is with someone else. She thinks of you as a friend, and Im sorry but if she doesn't have those feelings for you beyond friendship by now, chances are she never will.

Why would you even want to get into a marriage with someone who is so unsure of themselves? Or someone who tells you repeatedly that they don't think of you as more then a friend? I do agree that friendship is important in a relationship as well as a marriage, but you definately need more then that. Its just not there on her part. You cannot force someone to feel that. Even if you do buy them a shiny enagagement ring or any other material things. Money just doesn't buy love or at least the true kind.

I know you don't like what you are hearing, but its the truth. Thats the thing about this board, we tell you our honest opinions. Some are more blunt then others. But, if the same message seems to be coming thru, then maybe you ought to consider what we are saying.

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