Well if you can't reach her by phone, I guess email would work.

What you wrote is good. Keep it simple and to the point. Let her know you mean business.

Then when she actually shows up with the ring, explain to her your reasonings why you want it back. Let her know that while you were being sincere in proposing to her, you don't want to pressure her. So its best you get the ring back.

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