Originally Posted by vashti
Sorry, but as for me, romantic moments cannot be manufactured my muttering some cheesy lines. Romance to me requires some actual thoughtfulness, and actions speak louder than words most of the time.
I partially disagree.
What I've learned this past year about, well, not necessarily
romantic words, but words in general is that the word and the action must go hand in hand.
I can say I care about somebody, to appease them, to make them feel better at the moment, but if I don't reinforce that with some kind of action, the words then become empty.
If I act as though I care about somebody, but neglect to acknowledge it vocally, it can make the relationship confusing or frustrating. How can I truly care for somebody when I can't let somebody know how I appreciate them? Plus, sometimes actions go unnoticed and need to be vocalized.
I learned how easy it is to forget how powerful words can be, especially when it comes to expressing my appreciation for others. I started to just assume that everybody knew how I felt about them. That, doing kind things, or saying kind things once before was all that was necessary for people to know how I felt about them here and now.
But humans tend to need constant reinforcement, reminding them of their worth.
The simple
action, of taking a person aside and expressing with
words how you feel about them can be a very powerful gesture. One that I think is all too frequently overlooked.